sisterhood [ˈsistərˌho͝od] (NOUN):
the feeling of kinship, closeness and community to a group of women or all women.
There's just something to be said about having a sisterhood. A group of women who you can bounce ideas off of, support and love right? I've been extremely blessed to know some incredibily amazing women...but it hasn't always been that way. That's right ya girl was out here living recklessly without a squad for a long time! I don't know about you, but I feel like there's this random time in your life as a young adult where , for some reason it's hard to make friends... like genuine friends. I know I'm not the only one out here!
If you're anything like me, you've never had a problem making friends in school, you took classes together and were in student organizations maybe... BUT this isn't college anymore. You no longer have access to the obvious built in support system created by pre structured groups. At least not by default. You're out here with a real life job sis! With real life bills! Some nights you just want to get off and head straight home to binge Love & Hip Hop... or is it just me?
I get it, trust me I do... BUT we need our sisters! Ladies, humans are created for community- think about it... in Genesis God created Adam and bruh man was lonely... struggling. So God made Him a helpmate- a friend. We're not supposed to do life alone. And we don't have to, there are so many awesome ladies out there who are looking for sistership too! Also- if I could, let me be the first to say, life sucks when we're alone. Do you know why? I'll tell you- SIS, the enemy loves to isolate us. He knows that if he can get us outside of a supportive network of believers, we'll be more susceptible to his attack. He's such a punk like that. We have to protect and equip ourselves to fight him off, but sometimes we get tired or we need an outside perspective to show us things that we can't see. Building a sisterhood allows for more eyes to be on the look out!
So maybe you're searching for your tribe right now. Yay! Do you need help?! Here's what I did...I got you!
3 places to find mighty warrior women to add to your tribe
1. At church
- For me this was the easiest place I found some of my closest girlfriends. We sing together and worship together. Since I spend a lot of time at church, these ladies probably know the most about me outside of my BFF. We have similar values and hold each other accountable. And don't get it twisted we talk about more than Jesus lol. I've gotten through some of the hardest moments of my life because they were there to hold my arms up. So... if you're not apart of a local church, I HIGHLY encourage you to and once you're there get plugged into a place to serve.
2. The gym
- Okay ladies (*in my Beyonce voice), a lot of you won't want to hear this, but we need to take care of ourselves. I know, I know typically we hate working out, but we are getting older ladies and we have to prioritize our health. If you have to go, you might as well go with your girls and do it together right? Take a body pump class, what about a boot camp? Ask girl to spot you. When I got serious about working out I joined a bootcamp and through that experience I've been able to meet so many awesome ladies. I'm currently working out with the beauties below! How cute are we in our matching shirts?!
3. Create the space
- So maybe you don't know where to start. What do you like to do? Find a local meet up or search events on facebook. I'm sure there's something cool that you like happening in your city this weekend...GO! When you get there, talk to people. Obviously they're there because they have at least ONE of your interests. Step outside of your comfort zone sis. You've got this! You're great and there are sisters out there looking for you just like you're looking for them, but you have to leave your house. Plan an event, network through other friends and create a sister circle. You got this!