If you're anything like me, most times you feel like you wish you had more hours in the day. You're probably running around from place to place, juggling several obligations and taking care of others. On top of that, you're trying to maintain some kind of actual human relationship with with your family and friends. Don't get me wrong I love all of the ventures the Lord is placing in my lap, but let's face it, a sista gets tired sometimes! Have you ever gone throughout an entire day without eating (chips and a pop tart DO NOT COUNT... that's not real food). If this is you, you may be suffering from Superwoman Syndrome. Don't worry, you're not alone, it's pretty common among hustlin' ladies. Although, some strands can be highly contagious, there is a cure!
Let me start by saying, God didn't create us to live in chaos. As a matter of fact, we're actually called to live in the totally opposite...that's peace... that's order. So how do we get there? Well, I think it goes back to balance and this crazy little concept of rhythms. God has placed so many gifts, talents and dreams in us that, if they are according to His will, are possible to do properly and in order.
That's right friends, we need some rhythms in our lives. Rhythms are cycles or patterns we place in our lives that allow us to function at full capacity. Don't get me wrong, I DO NOT do this perfectly all of the time, but when I do....ohhhh when I do, I'm most productive, positive and personable. In order to start finding your rhythms, here's a short list of questions to ask yourself:
1. How much sleep do I need to function? How many to excel?
2. What is my self- care routine? How often are you performing this routine?
3. How do I recharge? How often do you recharge?
For me, I have learned that although I can function on 5 hours of sleep, I'm my highest functioning self with 7 hours. If I get 9 who knows what I could do!? Ya'll better watch out! One rhythm I've really been paying close attention to is my self-care. Everyone's self care regime looks different, but the concept of self-care is doing what you need to in order to replenish your mental, physical and emotional states. There are several things I do for self-care, but my most effective practice is working out. I know what you're thinking, sweating...sore muscles?! That doesn't should very relaxing! But for me it's one of the ways I enjoy taking care of my self best! Not only am I working towards a bangin body (which improves what I see in the mirror), but it also promotes optimum health. I try to go to the gym 5 days a week, but 6, is ideal for me. For me to feel like I'm functioning at my highest, I NEED to do this recharging process each week. The MOST IMPORTANT rhythm I have is my weekly sabbath. This is when I set aside intentional time to get away with God; this includes resting, reading and reflecting in what He's done. If I don't do anything else, I try my hardest to make sure I adhere to my weekly sabbath because not only is it a commandment from the LORD, but it's my most effective way to recharge and favorite form of worship!
I'm not by any means saying YOU have to do what I do, but I encourage you to use the questions to start thinking about your personal rhythms. I encourage you to at least try it. Rhythms are so vital to maintaining balance. Balance also requires you to say no sometimes and put your rhythms first. I know, I know, people ask ALOT of us, but how can we help people and function at full capacity if we aren't taking care of yourselves first? It's not fair to others to give mediocre effort. Let's do everyone a favor and admit we are NOT superwoman...and that's okay, that's where grace comes in. God calls us to live in freedom, not disorder. Let's get free ya'll! #syndromeFREE